hi again
@FRED24
personally, I think you need to listen to your daughter especially, and your friends - your daughter will want the best for both her parents and be looking out for your welfare and health as well as her father's - she sounds to be concerned about how much having your husband home will affect you and worried about what will happen to both of you if you hit carer breakdown
what, for instance, will happen should you have him home and he is still asking you to take him home .... it's most likely that won't change
it's important that you think of your own needs and life equally - I can only imagine how it feels to be at home without your husband but even if he is in the house you will still be missing your husband of old
you aren't letting him down, you are making sure he is safe and looked after and he would want to know that you are also taking care of yourself because he no longer can