Hello, my mum got diagnosed with mixed vascular dementia almost 4 yrs at only 62. She is deteriorating quite quick, she still lives in her family home with carers coming n going. My brother has guardianship and is not communicating with me regarding mums health or anything. I phone her everyday and visit every weekend and sometimes pop in and out when I can. I am really struggling seeing her like this, I am on antidepressants, she doesn't do anything, she goes to bed in the afternoon, she doesn't know me most of the time, she doesn't know she has a grand daughter anymore who is my oldest, but she remembers my 2 boys. She has hit me a few times, nipped me and elbowed me. She soils herself alot and its a fight to get her to wash or bathe. She had an accident earlier to which the carer messaged me to go and deal with it as she hadn't the time to clean it all up, but I had to phone my brother as I myself have osteoarthritis in both knees and in crutches and I don't drive and I can't deal with poop, and he wasn't very nice to me on the phone. I only phoned for advice as I didn't know what to do, I assumed that was one of the carers duties. Just looking for some advice on how to cope and if there is anything I can do to get informed on whats happening with my mum or does my brother have all the rights as he is mums guardian!?!?