I am struggling with my husband - he causes arguements so much and I read how you shouldnt argue with them. This is very hard as he goes on and on and on - sort of goading me to respond. If I don't respond he makes some snide comment like Oh dont answer me then or Ok doesn't it matter then - but in a nasty tone of voice.
He questions and questions me but doesnt understand my answers so sometimes I tell him it doesnt matter and he goes on and on that it does matter and I should explain to him - which only results in unpleasantness and I feel I can't win as if I dont answer he tells me I should and if I do answer he doesnt understand.
Sometimes I mistakenly make a flippant remark, for example about something on the TV - I sort of think out loud then he goes on and on about what was I talking about and if I say it doesnt matter now (the person I commented about has now gone) he says well why did you say it if it doesnt matter. I do try to stop myself from thinking out loud but sometimes its out my mouth before I know it.
Is there some trick or something I can do or say to stop him going on and on and on.
He questions and questions me but doesnt understand my answers so sometimes I tell him it doesnt matter and he goes on and on that it does matter and I should explain to him - which only results in unpleasantness and I feel I can't win as if I dont answer he tells me I should and if I do answer he doesnt understand.
Sometimes I mistakenly make a flippant remark, for example about something on the TV - I sort of think out loud then he goes on and on about what was I talking about and if I say it doesnt matter now (the person I commented about has now gone) he says well why did you say it if it doesnt matter. I do try to stop myself from thinking out loud but sometimes its out my mouth before I know it.
Is there some trick or something I can do or say to stop him going on and on and on.