Hi stresseddaughter- I am also a stressed daughter and I’m so sorry to hear that you’ve been waiting so long for the memory clinic appt. I’ve only just managed to get the GP to put a referral in as Mum kept being hospitalised (with suspected infections) and missing the appts to have the relevant bloods. I finally got the hospital to do the right bloods but am not holding out much hope for a quick turn around as have been told it’s at least 3-4 month wait for the memory clinic here. My Mum has also had delirium during her current admission. I haven’t got any specific ideas or advice but I just wanted to say that I really empathise with how hard this is- it’s so frustrating when you feel convinced that you know what’s going on but you don’t have the official diagnosis
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I still think it makes sense to pursue it as if nothing else you will feel reassured that you were ‘right’ about what’s going on (at times I’ve felt like I’m gaslighting myself or imagining things!)
In my case the lack of diagnosis led to hospital staff just taking Mum’s word on stuff and not realising how far away she was from her baseline when she was admitted (she was previously moving round the house with a frame but is now unable to get out of bed). I’m also really sorry to reply to you with a question but at what point did you decide to look at care homes? Mum lives alone and although I live very close by I work 4 days a week (in a different city) and have two relatively young kids so she’d have to manage with carers going in to the home.
This is all so hard but please remember there are people out there who understand xx