I thought we had an OK relationship, it took long enough to get that far - it took a day to see how fragile it obviously was!! OH went into care yesterday, a bit unexpectedly because a vacancy came up at the retirement village's (where we live) dementia unit. It has a very good reputation and report from the District Health Board. A neighbour whose job includes finding such places for people said, "They never have vacancies, I can never get people in there." Given, I'd just had a suspected TIA and the doctor said, "Do it," I did. Stepdaughter (presume speaking for all) has written 2 horrible emails. She disagrees the situation is as desperate as I'm trying to make out and much more, much worse. I do have supportive friends, family, support group leader and mental health team, but I really could never have imagined she could be so vitriolic. Feeling better since I told her I didn't need the stress and to communicate through my daughter. Having a couple of days away too. I doubt this can ever be retrieved.