Hi apologies if this is a long post....
My husband 48yrs has changed over the past 12 months from a personality perspective to the point where I was actually saying he's not the man I married. There's been the forgetfulness starting jobs around the house not finishing them, not remembering dates, not telling me his parents were coming to visit, oddly chaotic stuff. But he's always been distracted so I put it down to that. Then since Christmas ive been saying he needs to go to the GP as his memory is rubbish. He obviously refused told me I was making it up and it was all so vague it was in my head.
Since March he's lost 2 bank cards, his wallet separately, coats, etc. then on holidays over Easter he forgot ten years of his sisters working career. It just wasn't there. He blamed tiredness. But there was this strange blank look. Then 3 weeks ago he forgot a wedding we were going to. As you can imagine there was anger as it came out the night before the wedding. A close friend over email suggested dementia so now I was worried. The day after the wedding he had that blank look again but this time he couldn't remember where our son was. Blank. Just not there. I booked the GP and made him go. It turns out he's had some issues at work. So on Tuesday we have an appt at the memory clinic. I've noticed and others have noticed periods brief though they are of confusion, struggling with words, unable to do simple maths, forgetting dates, holidays, people, going to the shop with our 7yr old daughter and not remembering what he went for. All this since the GP.
I'm terrified. Borderline depressed mostly because he has moments of lucidity then he's back in the 'everything is awesome' mode as he is rationalising it and really can't understand why I'm worried because he feels fine. He's refusing to tell his family. There's history of multi infarct dementia in his grandmother. I think his family would freak. My family live in Ireland. I have amazing friends but I'm living this alone. I know I'm jumping the gun let's face it this could be anything right....? But I know enough I'm a nurse and I've talked to enough colleagues - they all get that shugar it's not good look right before telling me it'll be fine- to know something's coming. Has anyone had experience of the memory clinic or similar experiences?
My husband 48yrs has changed over the past 12 months from a personality perspective to the point where I was actually saying he's not the man I married. There's been the forgetfulness starting jobs around the house not finishing them, not remembering dates, not telling me his parents were coming to visit, oddly chaotic stuff. But he's always been distracted so I put it down to that. Then since Christmas ive been saying he needs to go to the GP as his memory is rubbish. He obviously refused told me I was making it up and it was all so vague it was in my head.
Since March he's lost 2 bank cards, his wallet separately, coats, etc. then on holidays over Easter he forgot ten years of his sisters working career. It just wasn't there. He blamed tiredness. But there was this strange blank look. Then 3 weeks ago he forgot a wedding we were going to. As you can imagine there was anger as it came out the night before the wedding. A close friend over email suggested dementia so now I was worried. The day after the wedding he had that blank look again but this time he couldn't remember where our son was. Blank. Just not there. I booked the GP and made him go. It turns out he's had some issues at work. So on Tuesday we have an appt at the memory clinic. I've noticed and others have noticed periods brief though they are of confusion, struggling with words, unable to do simple maths, forgetting dates, holidays, people, going to the shop with our 7yr old daughter and not remembering what he went for. All this since the GP.
I'm terrified. Borderline depressed mostly because he has moments of lucidity then he's back in the 'everything is awesome' mode as he is rationalising it and really can't understand why I'm worried because he feels fine. He's refusing to tell his family. There's history of multi infarct dementia in his grandmother. I think his family would freak. My family live in Ireland. I have amazing friends but I'm living this alone. I know I'm jumping the gun let's face it this could be anything right....? But I know enough I'm a nurse and I've talked to enough colleagues - they all get that shugar it's not good look right before telling me it'll be fine- to know something's coming. Has anyone had experience of the memory clinic or similar experiences?