1. tuffydawn

    tuffydawn Registered User

    Mar 30, 2015
    123
    my oh keeps following me about and then just stares at me for ages with a very strange expression it is very unnerving he's only done this in the last few days he has very little dialogue but tries to say he's looking for mummy this new behaviour is making me on edge
     
  2. karaokePete

    karaokePete Registered User

    Jul 23, 2017
    5,022
    N Ireland
    That could be separation anxiety. This shadowing is common enough and my wife often engages in such activity.

    My wife requires medication to help with her anxiety levels as reassurance only gives very temporary relief.

    It's mentioned on Pgs 22 and 23 of the Factsheet that can be read by clicking this link - click the PDF link
    Changes in behaviour (525)
    PDF printable version
     
  3. canary

    canary Registered User

    Feb 25, 2014
    10,719
    Female
    South coast
    Hes lost @tuffydawn You have become his "comfort blanket" and he doesnt want to let you out of his sight.
     
  4. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    69,755
    Kent
    Yes, I agree, He doesn`t understand what is happening. If you leave the room he doesn`t know where you are, you could be a million miles away for all he knows.

    When I used to go into the kitchen to make a cup of tea, when I took it into my husband he thought I`d been out and just arrived home.
     
  5. PalSal

    PalSal Registered User

    My hubby watches me a good part of the day. Whatever I am doing....in the beginning it was irratating but I am used to it now.
    Like Granny says we are their security blankets.
    And if I go take a nap alone he wanders around the house looking for me making noise. So, now if I want a nap he comes with me. He immediately can drop off into a snoring sleep.
     
  6. AliceA

    AliceA Registered User

    May 27, 2016
    2,472
    But can you? Xxx
     
  7. PalSal

    PalSal Registered User

    Not always, but I read and relax and hope to catch a short kip.
     
  8. LadyA

    LadyA Registered User

    Oct 19, 2009
    13,532
    Ireland
    Yes. I used to settle my husband into his armchair, and sit beside him, putting my armchair in front of the door so he couldn't get out without waking me, every afternoon, and we'd both snooze for an hour or two! Often I'd wake up and find him watching me, smiling. He was fine, as long as he could see me. In the night, however, he'd be up, wandering around the house, because he wouldn't see me in the dark, and would go looking for me! A few times, he left the bedroom without waking me (he was only sleeping 1 1/2 to 2 hours at a time, so I was exhausted), and I would find him in the living room, in the dark because he didn't know how to turn on the lights, very frightened because he couldn't find me, and didn't know where I was. I had motion sensor lights everywhere, but in his fear, he would be sitting very still, so the lights would go out! During the day, I couldn't leave him at all, he had to accompany me everywhere. Even to the loo. If he couldn't see me, he'd panic. Because I was the one who "knew everything".
     
  9. maryjoan

    maryjoan Registered User

    Mar 25, 2017
    1,356
    Female
    South of the Border
    My OH has just started to refer to me as " I thought you knew everything" - so I take it this is just a further manifestation of this awful disease.......
     
  10. Baker17

    Baker17 Registered User

    Mar 9, 2016
    276
    My husband is exactly the same and thinks I can sort everything out for him, sometimes I can’t because of officialdom and it’s heartbreaking
     
  11. maryjoan

    maryjoan Registered User

    Mar 25, 2017
    1,356
    Female
    South of the Border
    I used to think I either knew everything, or could research it....... but, yes, officialdom is a complete pain.
     
  12. AliceA

    AliceA Registered User

    May 27, 2016
    2,472
    Mine got discharged from hospital too soon by telling the consultant that his wife could look after him because I could do everything.
    The discharge team were horrified, after a bad weekend we had hospital at home for two weeks.
    Now he reckons I know everything and can sort out everything.
    The back handed compliment it that I do it so well! :):(
     

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