Hi Selina, I’m sad to hear that you are feeling the same as I am. Every day I aprocach my mum’s front door hoping things will,be slightly better and fearing that they will,be the same. I too feel useless, it’s a problem that I can’t fix and we must be fixers otherwise we couldn’t be carers. One day this week I arrived and when I saw things were the same I wanted to cry. I sit with her most of the day, watching her doze, having the same conversations. She’s not interested in the tv and to be honest the adverts are driving me insane. Funeral plans, animal,charities and riser recliner chairs aaahhhh! All the while my head is bursting with things I need to do in my own home. I keep all the plates spinning at mum’s home but they all crashing down in mine. I’m the opposite to you in that I feel guilty leaving mum in her chair because when she’s in bed she sleeps so I rush home, do a couple of jobs, and rush back to wake her a couple of hours later. Does your dad feel unwell or just excessively tired? There are many things they have tested my mum for, B12, iron and Sodium all of these will make a person very tired. Has your dad had his bloods tested?
Thank you so much for asking about mum and her meds. They don’t seem to have made any difference it’s taken me a few days but I seem to have narrowed my mum’s symptoms down. She is excessively tired, she goes from freezing cold to very hot in what seems to be an instant, she gets short of breath and one more thing, she seems to have a constant headache. Yesterday I gave her paracetamol three times and by the time she went to bed she said it was lifting. I know her symptoms sound like flu but it’s been going on for three weeks now and she doesn’t have a temperature.
I’m going to speak to the doctor again next week, I really feel like a nuisance when I keep phoning them but it’s so unlike my mum to say she doesn’t feel well. She’s the opposite and usually says “don’t call the doctor, let’s see how I am tomorrow”.
I’ll keep you posted and please let me know how your dad is doing.