Just an update on the social services visit. Had a really nice social worker visit today and she agreed that we can look at putting mum into long term care. Just need to decide which home we want and put them in touch with the social worker.
She was very helpful and I learned a lot about how to negotiate for NHS prices in homes that have higher private costs - especially when social work agrees that it is time for your loved one to be placed in a home. She sees no reason why I shouldn't be able to place my mum in the home I really like for the same cost as any other home - she knows others who have done so - so that was interesting and I will be breaking out the negotiating skills from the closet!!
She has agreed to the personal care weekly allowance (Scotland system) and then the nursing home assess whether she is due the additional allowance for nursing care. Of course this is able to happen as quickly as I want as my mum has a house to sell and is regarded as "self funding" for the rest of the weekly nursing home payment. If she wasn't self funding she would have had to go on a waiting list for at least 6 months - hardly seems fair this system for people with AD who have no assets. Mind you working hard all your life, struggling to buy and pay for your home only to have it taken to pay for care doesn't seem fair either. But I have to say that I am grateful that my dad took the plunge to buy their local authority house 15 years ago - he didn't know then that he was going to give my mum the ability to pay for her own long term care and be admitted in a timely manner!!! Bless him!
I will wait till my brother comes back from his holiday before we make any decisions - don't know how I feel now - when it comes to the crunch decision it is really hard to make as so many of you know. However I am running out of stamina fast......
She was very helpful and I learned a lot about how to negotiate for NHS prices in homes that have higher private costs - especially when social work agrees that it is time for your loved one to be placed in a home. She sees no reason why I shouldn't be able to place my mum in the home I really like for the same cost as any other home - she knows others who have done so - so that was interesting and I will be breaking out the negotiating skills from the closet!!
She has agreed to the personal care weekly allowance (Scotland system) and then the nursing home assess whether she is due the additional allowance for nursing care. Of course this is able to happen as quickly as I want as my mum has a house to sell and is regarded as "self funding" for the rest of the weekly nursing home payment. If she wasn't self funding she would have had to go on a waiting list for at least 6 months - hardly seems fair this system for people with AD who have no assets. Mind you working hard all your life, struggling to buy and pay for your home only to have it taken to pay for care doesn't seem fair either. But I have to say that I am grateful that my dad took the plunge to buy their local authority house 15 years ago - he didn't know then that he was going to give my mum the ability to pay for her own long term care and be admitted in a timely manner!!! Bless him!
I will wait till my brother comes back from his holiday before we make any decisions - don't know how I feel now - when it comes to the crunch decision it is really hard to make as so many of you know. However I am running out of stamina fast......