I'm currently staying with my mum who has dementia and Alzheimer's. My problem is two fold.
My mum's neighbour who is also her friend, is overbearingly possessive over my mum and her affairs. She lets herself into my mum's house and issues me orders and instructions on how she wants things done. She comes to the house and shouts at me through my bedroom door asking about my mum's medical appointments and other details. She doesn't think I'm doing a good enough job looking after my mother.
What makes this worse is the second issue. My youngest sister has lived with my mum for a few years and is great friends with this neighbour. She tells this neighbour what is going on in the house and personal information about my mother that I know my mother wouldn't wish her to know as my mother has always been a very private person.
I don't understand why my sister is doing this but she also doesn't think I'm not doing a very good job and is bad mouthing me to this neighbour.
The reason I'm with my mum is because my sister was neglecting her. She wasn't eating and lost an awful amount of weight. My sister works then goes out most evenings and weekends and didn't notice my mother's declining health.
What would you do in this situation?
My mum's neighbour who is also her friend, is overbearingly possessive over my mum and her affairs. She lets herself into my mum's house and issues me orders and instructions on how she wants things done. She comes to the house and shouts at me through my bedroom door asking about my mum's medical appointments and other details. She doesn't think I'm doing a good enough job looking after my mother.
What makes this worse is the second issue. My youngest sister has lived with my mum for a few years and is great friends with this neighbour. She tells this neighbour what is going on in the house and personal information about my mother that I know my mother wouldn't wish her to know as my mother has always been a very private person.
I don't understand why my sister is doing this but she also doesn't think I'm not doing a very good job and is bad mouthing me to this neighbour.
The reason I'm with my mum is because my sister was neglecting her. She wasn't eating and lost an awful amount of weight. My sister works then goes out most evenings and weekends and didn't notice my mother's declining health.
What would you do in this situation?