A family member received a diagnosis of dementia 2 weeks ago after a series of strokes. She still holds lucid conversations most of the time but dips in and out of past and prestent occasionally. Her husband has been ill for a number of months and passed away 2 weeks ago. The doctor has told family it’s best that she doesn’t know or attend the funeral. This doesn’t sit well with me, not just the lieing when she asks about him, but the lack of opportunity to grieve and the confusion it must cause. Ive not got much experience with dementia, but the little I have had I know that people are usually engaged in the grief process, funerals and memory and are notified of loved ones passing. I’m not immediate family so have resisted challenging the decision. I would like to hear your opinions and experiences in this area.