I can hardly believe that I've moved to the next part of the forum now but here I am. Mum passed just over two weeks ago and her funeral is on Monday. I thought all was arranged and settled until yesterday when my sister suddenly said that she was thinking that we should tell dad and even take him to the funeral. Dad has Alzheimer's too and is in a care home and up until yesterday we had all agreed not to tell him and not to take him to the funeral. Its been hard and in our true hearts of course we would like him there but he's ill so why would we? What good would it serve? Why do I want to impose the distress and sadness I feel onto him? I really don't understand. How can we know how this will affect him. How will he deal with all those faces? What will he do when he sees us crying? I'm just so upset by it all. Can anyone tell me a good reason for him to go? Is there one? thanks.