OK..this is the story. SIL, wrote her will over 10 years ago dividing everything between my husband and his children(from 1st marriage),I dont get a mention... but not worry. Anyway,last year her dementia really started to kick in. And, for reasons known to her, she gave my husband her copy of the will (that is how we know what is what). Now here comes the crunch. The house was their parents, then left to her as she never married and left home. And, in the will it is to be divided equally upon sale of it. Well, as it stands the house is going to have to be sold to cover her costs in the NH. My husband has some interest in this home, even though sadly nothing is written down on paper, I suppose many people never think events like this will happen. So, I suppose we will have to accept that whatever my husband has had a claim on the house has gone, even with the will. Question could be asked, why didn't she write it in her will better. The fact is the date on the will is one month after the passing of their mother so who knows what frame of mind she was in. I don't think she ever got over her mothers loss, events prove this, but thats another story. If anybody as any sound advice on anything that we could do, I would welcome it. As it is now, my husband is her POA, and her bank accounts are being eaten up by the NH fees, so the house is on the market by the end of this year, that should stand her for 3 more years at todays rate of fees if they were to stay static (ha). She gets the low rate AA, we have tried to raise it as she is fully dependable on care now, but the AA is taking forever to come to a decision. Someone recently told me their mother had an assessement, late last year, without them being told. And six month later she was refunded over £13,000, and no longer fully funds herself. It would seem her dementia has progressed even more, so can someone please tell me what is all that about...and what is this assessment called? I apologize for my rotten typing, but my head just seems to be in a spin about a lot of things at the moment with regard to SIL and her care costs, and care.