I do feel mean, I only seem to have time to come here when there is a problem
Six weeks ago mum's knee flared up and she couldn't use the stairlift. So we brought her bedroom downstairs (she lives with us). At the same time her vascular dementia took a turn for the worse for a while. Carers had to be brought in to look after her in the mornings (for 30 mins) whilst I went to work. After six weeks the free service provided by the re-ablement team ended, and last Friday new carers were brought in.
Tonight she wants to know what is going on. After a long, convoluted discussion, she wants to know how I would feel if after six weeks the house was picked up and moved onto the corner. And why did we move again? (We haven't moved for 14 years). The only thing I've moved is her bedroom and the red chairs in my workroom and that, she says, is not a problem.
Two hours later...I haven't got a clue, except that she says she knows what is going to happen. I won't like her anymore. She is a bit tearful. She thinks she'll go to bed (but that's just a protest move - and "I'm depressed" statement) but, as I said, that means I'll have to do her tablets first.
I don't know how to cope with this. I've sent my husband out of the way into the front room (otherwise he'll get blamed for everything), my daughter and her boyfriend are also in the other room, out of the way.
What am I supposed to do? Please? She says that if she could drive she would leave.
Nightowl
Six weeks ago mum's knee flared up and she couldn't use the stairlift. So we brought her bedroom downstairs (she lives with us). At the same time her vascular dementia took a turn for the worse for a while. Carers had to be brought in to look after her in the mornings (for 30 mins) whilst I went to work. After six weeks the free service provided by the re-ablement team ended, and last Friday new carers were brought in.
Tonight she wants to know what is going on. After a long, convoluted discussion, she wants to know how I would feel if after six weeks the house was picked up and moved onto the corner. And why did we move again? (We haven't moved for 14 years). The only thing I've moved is her bedroom and the red chairs in my workroom and that, she says, is not a problem.
Two hours later...I haven't got a clue, except that she says she knows what is going to happen. I won't like her anymore. She is a bit tearful. She thinks she'll go to bed (but that's just a protest move - and "I'm depressed" statement) but, as I said, that means I'll have to do her tablets first.
I don't know how to cope with this. I've sent my husband out of the way into the front room (otherwise he'll get blamed for everything), my daughter and her boyfriend are also in the other room, out of the way.
What am I supposed to do? Please? She says that if she could drive she would leave.
Nightowl