Hi all,
My Mum in residential care for a year now, was found by carers in bed with a another male resident, in a room belonging to neither of them. They are both some of the most mobile residents and the carers assured us that there was only a small 20 minute window in which this could have happened.
My Mum is less and less lucid. She knows who I am and my family, but can't really recall information without being coached or prompted. Her Dementia is vascular and she has real trouble connecting sentences when trying to express herself. She has never exhibited any overtly sexual behaviours since being diagnosed and I don't think it's due to medication. She understands which bedroom is hers and I've never seen any inclination from her to walk into other residents' rooms without being directed.
I and my Dad are not sure how to approach this. We feel upset and let down by the care home staff but understand that they can't have eyes on all the residents, all the time.
Has anyone got any experience in dealing with these types of situations? I haven't seen my Mum or visited her care home for a few days but am due to do so in a few hours for a pre-planned day out.
My Mum in residential care for a year now, was found by carers in bed with a another male resident, in a room belonging to neither of them. They are both some of the most mobile residents and the carers assured us that there was only a small 20 minute window in which this could have happened.
My Mum is less and less lucid. She knows who I am and my family, but can't really recall information without being coached or prompted. Her Dementia is vascular and she has real trouble connecting sentences when trying to express herself. She has never exhibited any overtly sexual behaviours since being diagnosed and I don't think it's due to medication. She understands which bedroom is hers and I've never seen any inclination from her to walk into other residents' rooms without being directed.
I and my Dad are not sure how to approach this. We feel upset and let down by the care home staff but understand that they can't have eyes on all the residents, all the time.
Has anyone got any experience in dealing with these types of situations? I haven't seen my Mum or visited her care home for a few days but am due to do so in a few hours for a pre-planned day out.