First time I've ever posted but need some support. Been trying to get thru to Kent dementia helplne but busy all the time. My mum has no short or long term memory and keeps sayin how life is terrible, how ill she feels and 30 seconds later repeats herself. My dad has terminal cancer and feels bad today and had to leave the room in tears as he feels so helpless and ill. They've been married 68 years and i've moved in to help them stay together for as long as they can but am running out of ideas on what to do next. Mum is aware that things aren't right and keeps saying its becos she's a silly girl. sumtimes she talks about the letters and how she cant get them in order and doesnt know where to start. She constantly asks for permission to do things but has started complaining about every tele programme so dad turns it off and they sit in silence. dont really know wat to do next.She is frequently awake all night but not wandering just sitting up all night. anybody got ideas? Tis getting tough for all of us.