Hello everyone on this forum. I’m wondering if any of you are in my situation…living in France. It’s early in the morning and the only time I have to myself to write this. My husband has had many tests over the past year..all show signs of alzeimers. His symptoms are worsening and very worrying, and without support I’m finding it very difficult. He can be delusional, paranoid, and doesn’t sometimes see me as his wife. He becomes very confused. I calm him. I cannot leave him alone anywhere because I would worry about him wandering or panicking wondering where I was. Even in the house he sometimes panics if I am not close by. His short term memory is about an hour or so. He forgets quickly. As I write this please don’t think I’m feeling sorry for myself, I’m not, but I am feeling isolated, alone, sometimes scared, controlled and desperate at times..although I’m a ‘toughie’. home help, someone to stay with my oh if I need to go to my appts. I need an op and I’ve cataracts coming. we live in an old house. i do almost everything and there aren’t enough hours in the day. if I were ever I’ll..I’m 75…he would not be able to make a call..it scares me. I need to be well for him. 9 months ago I made an appt to see a neurologist ..which I know will be definitive given what I’ve been told by my very supportive doctor here in France who we have been with for 20 years,, but the appt date is August this year..although we are getting closer to it now. I’ve chased up for an earlier appointment by letter and the last one I enclosEd all the reports including the Geriatricians home visit report and MRIs. etc.. no acknowledgement. My doctor is concerned for me. There are days when it’s fairly normal lull me into a false state of ‘everything’s okish’ but it isn’t. I’m scared. my husbands personality is changing. He can be accusatory, paranoid, and delusional and more. We’ve been married nearly 26 years and I love him dearly and want to care for him but I am struggling to get the support that I need. Please can you advise me what to do, who I could contact whilst waiting for the neurologist appt, and is there anyone on this Forum who lives in France with the same issues ..? I would so appreciate feedback… thank you….
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