Hi,
I've not been on TP for a while - all getting a bit too much.
However I would like your thoughts and advice today.
Mum lives with us (Alz, heart condition, mobility issues, no EPA active yet (yes - the 'old' EPA not new ones) bad days getting worse, sundowning getting worse, Galantamine appears to be becoming less effective )
Here's my dilemma, Hubby , 2 teenagers & me are planning a 2 week holiday together in July. First time we would have been away together for more than 2 consecutive nights in 4 years.
I am planning to book mum into a local care home that provides respite. She has never visited the home. When we have been away from home previously I have engaged an agency to provide live-in care - great whilst it's only days & we are in England but not a comfortable option as we plan to take the 2 week holiday abroad.
My dilemma -
* Shall I try to plan a test break for mum before the 'big' one?
* if I do this and she hates it - she will remember & will refuse to go again. She is not what you could call an easy-going person even before Az - so this is very likely.
* If I plan a test break mum may very well think that it is for good and boil herself up into a fury. I dread to think of the insults and blind fury I would face.
* If do not go ahead with a test break - is it fair to abandon her to a strange environment for 2 weeks when we do go on holiday?
I am an only child, no carers come in to help with mum. We have no continence issues yet, mum doesn't wander, and can dress herself. She enjoys a bottle of wine every day (no nasty falls to date).
Your thoughts and advice will be gratefully received.
Twiddler x
I've not been on TP for a while - all getting a bit too much.
However I would like your thoughts and advice today.
Mum lives with us (Alz, heart condition, mobility issues, no EPA active yet (yes - the 'old' EPA not new ones) bad days getting worse, sundowning getting worse, Galantamine appears to be becoming less effective )
Here's my dilemma, Hubby , 2 teenagers & me are planning a 2 week holiday together in July. First time we would have been away together for more than 2 consecutive nights in 4 years.
I am planning to book mum into a local care home that provides respite. She has never visited the home. When we have been away from home previously I have engaged an agency to provide live-in care - great whilst it's only days & we are in England but not a comfortable option as we plan to take the 2 week holiday abroad.
My dilemma -
* Shall I try to plan a test break for mum before the 'big' one?
* if I do this and she hates it - she will remember & will refuse to go again. She is not what you could call an easy-going person even before Az - so this is very likely.
* If I plan a test break mum may very well think that it is for good and boil herself up into a fury. I dread to think of the insults and blind fury I would face.
* If do not go ahead with a test break - is it fair to abandon her to a strange environment for 2 weeks when we do go on holiday?
I am an only child, no carers come in to help with mum. We have no continence issues yet, mum doesn't wander, and can dress herself. She enjoys a bottle of wine every day (no nasty falls to date).
Your thoughts and advice will be gratefully received.
Twiddler x