My dad lives in Southampton and recently went for his first week of respite care. It was a very worrying and traumatic time for both him and my mum. I believe my dad went to the only council run centre in the area and it is where he goes for day care as well. I know there isnt enough funding for these places but my mum says it is so run down and unwelcoming and she felt so guilty that she had no choice but to let him go there as she so desperately needed the break and was convinced by the doctor etc that he would be fine. He didnt settle very well and she spent the week crying and saying she wanted to get him out. My dad was so withdrawn and upset for a while after he came out. My mum looked at a private home that was amazingly wonderful and in stark contrast to the council run home but it cost £1000 a week. I fear she will keep him at home to the expense of her own mental and physical well being rather than send him back. Has anyone else had similar experiences and what did you do? Thank you very much.