My lovely mum, 93 with Alzheimers has managed well in her own home with lots of support from me and my brother until 3 weeks ago when she fell during the night and has take a massive downturn.
We already had her name down for a carehome so approached them to be told it would many weeks or months before a place would be available. I approached SS for help, but was told it would take weeks to appoint a social worker and I should sort something out myself. She will be self funding.
Mum is quite poorly at the moment. She has chronic constipation with overflow diarrhoea and is understandably very weak and helpless at the moment. She may improve once this has been sorted , but who knows?
The residential places I have approached have all looked askance when I have described mums condition as well as not having places ( I have put her on several waiting lists, but am not sure they will take her even when she gets to the top). I tried ringing some nursing homes but was told if she could walk (she can, very slowly with a frame) and feed herself (she can) then she is not nursing care but residential.
My brother and I are both exhausted , mum is now incontinent , but is up and needs assisting to the toilet and cleaning up dozens of times during the night.
I had the doctor out today and half hoped she would be admitted to hospital so I could get some help, but it didn't happen.
Who decides what type of care is suitable for mum?
Can I insist SS appoint a social worker now, not in several weeks time?
I would be so grateful for any advice as I just don't know what to do next.
Thankyou
Brambles
We already had her name down for a carehome so approached them to be told it would many weeks or months before a place would be available. I approached SS for help, but was told it would take weeks to appoint a social worker and I should sort something out myself. She will be self funding.
Mum is quite poorly at the moment. She has chronic constipation with overflow diarrhoea and is understandably very weak and helpless at the moment. She may improve once this has been sorted , but who knows?
The residential places I have approached have all looked askance when I have described mums condition as well as not having places ( I have put her on several waiting lists, but am not sure they will take her even when she gets to the top). I tried ringing some nursing homes but was told if she could walk (she can, very slowly with a frame) and feed herself (she can) then she is not nursing care but residential.
My brother and I are both exhausted , mum is now incontinent , but is up and needs assisting to the toilet and cleaning up dozens of times during the night.
I had the doctor out today and half hoped she would be admitted to hospital so I could get some help, but it didn't happen.
Who decides what type of care is suitable for mum?
Can I insist SS appoint a social worker now, not in several weeks time?
I would be so grateful for any advice as I just don't know what to do next.
Thankyou
Brambles