I now find myself in the position where I am out of my depth with looking after Mum. My plan when Dad died a few months ago was that I would try and keep mum at home as long as I could with carers sleeping in a few nights. Unfortunately mum is now incontinent and she has started to lash out at one of the carers. We are currently trying different meds - trazodone and zopicolne but as of yet she is still only sleeping 4hrs. Majority of the time she is pleasant but she can quickly turn. How do I decide if Mum needs EMI or just residential? I have so far looked at over 20 care homes and am completely confused. I would be grateful of any advice please