Mum has recently gone into a rest home (August) due to the doctors from the hospital insisting she goes in there due to safety at home with falls and all sorts of other things etc. I live overseas and phone once or twice a week. Every time I speak to her on the phone, it starts out nice and we have a fairly good chat, then she starts with she's 'not having it' being in there, she wants to go home etc. I can understand her wanting to go home, but that's not going to happen and the house is rented out now to pay for her fees in the home. She knows the house is rented out, because I talked to her about it, but she still thinks all her stuff is there and it's how it used to be and is insisting on going back home. It's hard talking to her as every time she brings this up and gets aggravated. The home says it takes time for some people to settle. I don't think she ever will and I find it hard having the same conversation every time we speak - if it's not that, it's where are her cigarettes :-( which I have no idea where they are, so I go through suggesting where they might be, but no, they're not there. (That's another reason why she couldn't be back home alone). I would phone more often but am finding it depressing talking to her and hearing the annoyance in her tone. The home is lovely and they look after her really well, but it's not where she wants to be.