My mum was diagnosed with Alzheimer's in December 2022 (probably not as early as she would've been if it weren't for the pandemic so not sure where exactly she is with the disease). She lives with my dad who is her sole carer and who is really struggling now. Mum is having trouble using the bathroom and is refusing the bath/shower and isn't changing her clothes.
My sister and I finally got our dad to get a carer in twice a week to help in the mornings but so far, it is yet to make an impact and my mum has been quite resistant. Apparently when the carer arrived last time, she just put on her shoes and walked out with the lady chasing after her. She doesn't like the idea of respite or any care support but isn't really able to articulate much when it comes to how she is feeling beyond a 'no'.
My dad is also reluctant to pay the money for respite or any other support as any benefits will take time to have any impact. In the meantime, he is still doing all the legwork but paying for somebody to come in.
We just don't seem to have that many options, and it is really hard with my mum refusing lots of things. Can anyone offer a similar experience and tell me what you have done? I don't want to (and can't) force my mum to do anything, but I am really worried my dad is going to have some sort of breakdown from the pressure of it all. I can only imagine how unhappy it is at home and obviously it isn't going to get any better.
Thank you for any replies.
My sister and I finally got our dad to get a carer in twice a week to help in the mornings but so far, it is yet to make an impact and my mum has been quite resistant. Apparently when the carer arrived last time, she just put on her shoes and walked out with the lady chasing after her. She doesn't like the idea of respite or any care support but isn't really able to articulate much when it comes to how she is feeling beyond a 'no'.
My dad is also reluctant to pay the money for respite or any other support as any benefits will take time to have any impact. In the meantime, he is still doing all the legwork but paying for somebody to come in.
We just don't seem to have that many options, and it is really hard with my mum refusing lots of things. Can anyone offer a similar experience and tell me what you have done? I don't want to (and can't) force my mum to do anything, but I am really worried my dad is going to have some sort of breakdown from the pressure of it all. I can only imagine how unhappy it is at home and obviously it isn't going to get any better.
Thank you for any replies.