Hi everyone,
I’m currently going through a rough time with my grandparents. One has just been diagnosed with vascular dementia and Alzheimer’s and we’re awaiting a diagnosis for the other.
Theres been so much change over the last few month, from them being fully independent, to having to rely heavily on family and carers, and having to medically surrender their driving licence. All that coupled with stubbornness, and them being from a generation of not wanting to ask for help is proving problematic.
As a family, we’re trying to do as best we can but things such as personal care for them both and housework, we’re struggling to keep on top of as the two of them are refusing to let us/anyone help and can’t see there’s an issue. We’re having good days and bad days, the bad days are absolutely draining, that coupled with stressful full time jobs, it’s beginning to take its toll on us all.
Waiting lists for adaptations to the house are also causing issues, we’re currently awaiting a wet-room being fitted, and an outdoor ramp to be fitted (mobility issues) to help make life easier but the delay in these being fitted is causing frustration as one grandparent is currently very obsessive over things and is trying to maintain their independence as best they can.
Has anyone else been in a similar situation? If so is there any advice you can give on how you’ve coped and dealt with it?
Thanks for taking the time to read this.
I’m currently going through a rough time with my grandparents. One has just been diagnosed with vascular dementia and Alzheimer’s and we’re awaiting a diagnosis for the other.
Theres been so much change over the last few month, from them being fully independent, to having to rely heavily on family and carers, and having to medically surrender their driving licence. All that coupled with stubbornness, and them being from a generation of not wanting to ask for help is proving problematic.
As a family, we’re trying to do as best we can but things such as personal care for them both and housework, we’re struggling to keep on top of as the two of them are refusing to let us/anyone help and can’t see there’s an issue. We’re having good days and bad days, the bad days are absolutely draining, that coupled with stressful full time jobs, it’s beginning to take its toll on us all.
Waiting lists for adaptations to the house are also causing issues, we’re currently awaiting a wet-room being fitted, and an outdoor ramp to be fitted (mobility issues) to help make life easier but the delay in these being fitted is causing frustration as one grandparent is currently very obsessive over things and is trying to maintain their independence as best they can.
Has anyone else been in a similar situation? If so is there any advice you can give on how you’ve coped and dealt with it?
Thanks for taking the time to read this.