I have booked a series of short break (residential respite) stays for my wife through to the end of November this year. On Thursday next week her home support worker will drop her off for a 4 night stay. I'll be able to use the time to finalise dog boarding arrangements, do some bike maintenance, and find out the best way to pack my new bike bag for my trip to Majorca in April. I'll probably do some cycling, maybe go out for a restaurant meal, remind myself what life used to be like and, most importantly, have some time to sit and relax. Unfortunately I also intend to start the almost unpalatable task of trying to find a permanent solution to our worsening situation by visiting a number of care homes. I am fast coming to the conclusion that I am unable to give my wife the proper level of care and support she needs. It is not through lack of effort, but as every new day seems to bring a fresh challenge - to add to all the others - I am in danger of becoming overwhelmed. The social care lady who carried out an assessment last week suggested that more support, especially with my wife's personal care, would be of major benefit, at least in the short term. But the problem is finding an agency that has the capacity to provide what is needed.