Mil has also become what we would call 'very pass-remarkable'
She has commented (loudly, and often rudely) on peoples appearance - we can see her 'people watching' if we go to a restaurant or cafe, or are stood in a queue perhaps, and find ourselves just waiting for the comment, and hoping whoever its aimed at is not within earshot
I would never have thought Mil had any prejudices, prior to the dementia, but there have been a couple of times where she has said quite offensive things, regarding not only race, but also things like sexual orientation - and its really shocked me, because its just NOT in line with how she is (or should I say, 'was'?
). The very worst (so far) was in a restaurant and a young waiter, who laughing and joking with us in a very camp manner, was treated to Mil raising her glass of lemonade and toasting 'Cheers to queers and engineers'
Mil can see absolutely no wrong in any remarks like this, and if we say anything, she dismisses it with either 'For goodness sake I was joking', or a very sniffy 'Oh, very sorry I'm sure - nobody ever told me it was wrong to say that' - or (worst of all) inform us that she is 'entitled to her opinion!'.
Every situation is different - if its appropriate, I'll explain briefly and say I hope there is no offense taken, to whoever is on the receiving end - thankfully, there haven't been any unpleasant reactions (other than the odd dirty look), but its uncomfortable when it happens, and it saddens me because the last thing my Mil has ever wanted to do, throughout her life, is upset anyone.