Hello This is my first post. My Dad was diagnosed with dementia last year. He has the most common form. He has now deteriorated to the point where we are considering putting him in a home. I just want to know what the process is. He has a social worker and a carer for two hours a week, but my mum simply cannot cope with the illness, no matter how often we explain she doesn't understand that it is not my Dad's fault and he is not the same person she married. She takes everything he says literally and gets angry when he accuses her of losing his things, or lying to him. It's happening more and more often. He's very frightened and the rows between him and my mum are just unbearable. I don't want to send him away, but it seems to be the only solution. Any advice would be welcome. My Dad is 85 - nearly 86 and my mum is 84. They have been married for 53 years and have known each other since they were teenagers. There are 4 of us, me, my sister and two brothers. As siblings we have all accepted the diagnosis and do everything we can to support our parents.