My wife is four years into alzheimers and has changed from a houseproud and considerate woman to person who wants everyones attention at all times.She never sees any dust or crumbs or anything else that may need cleaning.She sits groaning in her chair and when asked what the problem is she will say she has pains all over.She feeds our cat and leaves cat food all over the door handles and the floor.If anyone is on the phone she will try to interupt them all the time.If I want to watch the television she will either stand in front of it or talk meaningless until she gets my attention.She is man mad I darent leave her alone with a man as she wants to hug and kiss them evan the paper man who comes on a Sunday morning she tries to give him more than twice the paper money. Up to now I have tried to let her take care of the household money as I feel she needs some responcibility But yes I do keep my eye on her.I have to be sat in my chair doing nothing or she complains even if I go to work in the garden she says I have left her Her only outing is to the supermarket and to get her hair done once a week.Shhe would stop the latter if I would let her.My wife wont go anywhere we were going to fly down to Southampton last week and when we got to the airport she feined being ill so I had to take her back home.I have just tried booking a few days at a good hotel but she refuses point blank to go.Her toilet cleanliness has gone to pot she wont change her underclothes unless she is forced.Bathing has got bad she made the excuse she couldnt get in and out of the bath and she just refuses to get into the shower.I helped he to get out of the bath but she is an heavy woman now weighing over 11stone when she used to be only eight.I bought a lift that fits into the bath and works off batteries but I have to operate it as she says she cant.She is now saying I cant stand or walk as I am too dizzy but if the cat wants anything she can cope more than very well which always makes me think she is taking the p... out of me I am just about at my wits end as she wont accept any respite no matter what she wont evan let anyone look after her whilst I have a break.The other week an old school friend came to see her and because I was talking to her friend about old school days my wife got her breast out her friend said she was most embarresed and left saying she would call again but of course she hadnt.The reason why I have written this is because she is having one of her off days the decent days have now become few and between.I love my wife of 53years and often cry at night when I am in bed not that being in bed is respite as she wakes me up at least every hour to tell me the time or ask if the cats in.I would love to hear from other carers about their problems that way I may be able to accept mine better