Hi,
I am new here. My Mum lives with me and has Alzheimer's. She is 84 and driving me crazy. Mum doesn't look after herself and won't let anyone else do so either. Its a very unpleasant situation to be in. Last week we (myself and a nurse from Lea Hurst Day Hospital) managed to get her to attend the assessment unit for the morning to see if she liked it. The plan was then for her to attend for 8 weeks Mon and Thurs, so that things could hopefully be put in place to improve the situation.
Well, Mum said she did enjoy the morning and agreed to go back yesterday. Everything was laid on, food transport etc. I even got a friend to be at my house when the transport came to make sure they got in and took everything.
Monday morning comes, I go to get Mum up and she has a tantrum, screaming at me that she wants to be left alone in bed. The last time she did this was with a carer who tried to get her in the shower. They have now stopped coming as she wouldn't let them do anything.
Anyway, I left her in the hope that my friend would be able to persuade her to go. He did manage to get her up and dressed but tthere was no way he could get her to go.
Mum does nothing for herself, although she tells everyone who asks (District Nurses, CPN etc) that she washes and showers, goes to church etc. Mum can't use the TV or make herself anything to eat.
I work full time and am struggling to keep on top of things. I often think Mum is deliberately doing this to just be nasty.
My Dad also had Alzheimer's but he did go into a Care Home, but died in June from a blood disorder.
Can anyone suggest a way forwards before I walk out
I am new here. My Mum lives with me and has Alzheimer's. She is 84 and driving me crazy. Mum doesn't look after herself and won't let anyone else do so either. Its a very unpleasant situation to be in. Last week we (myself and a nurse from Lea Hurst Day Hospital) managed to get her to attend the assessment unit for the morning to see if she liked it. The plan was then for her to attend for 8 weeks Mon and Thurs, so that things could hopefully be put in place to improve the situation.
Well, Mum said she did enjoy the morning and agreed to go back yesterday. Everything was laid on, food transport etc. I even got a friend to be at my house when the transport came to make sure they got in and took everything.
Monday morning comes, I go to get Mum up and she has a tantrum, screaming at me that she wants to be left alone in bed. The last time she did this was with a carer who tried to get her in the shower. They have now stopped coming as she wouldn't let them do anything.
Anyway, I left her in the hope that my friend would be able to persuade her to go. He did manage to get her up and dressed but tthere was no way he could get her to go.
Mum does nothing for herself, although she tells everyone who asks (District Nurses, CPN etc) that she washes and showers, goes to church etc. Mum can't use the TV or make herself anything to eat.
I work full time and am struggling to keep on top of things. I often think Mum is deliberately doing this to just be nasty.
My Dad also had Alzheimer's but he did go into a Care Home, but died in June from a blood disorder.
Can anyone suggest a way forwards before I walk out