Hi there, I am a new member. I really would appreciate some friendly advise. My Stepmother has alzheimers (my dad has said this is what it is - but I don't think the doctor has managed to actually do the official test) Although we have known there has been a problem for a few years, my father has always just pretended it wasn't happening. She has not admitted it yet. If she repeats the same things, we pretend we haven't heard them before. She believes we are against her. Whenever we see her we have to talk only about things that involve her, otherwise she gets agressive and thinks we are purposely excluding her. Even then, sometimes she gets cross, because she can't remember being involved in the thing we are talking about. My father is of the 'stiff upper lip' generation and finds it difficult to know how to ask for help. He has been doing all the shopping, cooking etc. for couple of years now. She would get lost going to a familiar place. If he does manage to go out, he leaves her a salad, (she has left things in the oven on too many occasions!) He is now finding more and more he can't go out. She gets into a panic and won't let him go. How can he get her to go to the doctor to get a proper diagnosis? She won't even go for 'run of the mill' health problems. He is starting to show signs of cracking. I don't know what to do. Can he get the doctor out for a home visit? I feel so helpless. She won't trust me as I am a 'step' daughter. She has no brothers/sisters or children of her own. Any advise would be very welcome.