Hi
As many of you know my Husband, Pete, has been in a CH for 2 weeks now. I thought I would give you an update.
Pete settled well-so well I said to one of the managers that I would have fought to keep him at home if I could have foreseen how placid he would become. The manager said to me it was a good job that I couldn't then! They are all so lovely there. The manager said that they go home after their shift, whereas I couldn't! After not sleeping for 3 whole nights/days P is now getting some sleep at night, although he still wakes up about 6 times. The night carers tell him it's still night time and put him back to bed.
P lets the carers wash/change him (doubly incontinent) and he doesn't spit out his meds.He eats everything put in front of him and has a little doze in the morning and afternoon. The carers love him! They tell me he has a sunny smile and is a gentleman.
He's only once shown any aggression/agitation which was the day before yesterday when I left him to go home.We had been updating his photo album and he started to tear out the pages/photos.All he would say to the carers is 'that was a different life' (most unusual for P to be understood) We had had a very pleasant hour putting the photos in the album so it was absolutely out of the blue.I think it was a rare moment of realisation that he had once had a 'complete' life. So sad. Anyway I told P I would take the album home to find some more photos and bring it back on a daily basis so hopefully that will solve that problem.
Monday we walked down the road to the beach to get an ice cream. Unfortunately, even though the walk was only a couple of hundred yards Pete struggled (he shuffles and his head is on his chest when he walks) so I will attempt to use a wheelchair next time. Today I will take him for a shorter walk to a cafe where we can have some coffee and cake.
I visit everyday and sit with him while he has his meal;the staff are grateful that I do as P has to be reminded that food has to go into his mouth (with no prompting he just stares at it) I take in chocs and fruit and give him a hand massage everyday so the time goes by quite quickly.
So that's our life to date.Separated by AD but still trying to have good moments together.
Thank goodness I found the CH that P is in. The care is first class, it's homely (shabby round the edges-but P doesn't notice that.) The staff are friendly, very competent and sympathetic. We are becoming friends.
All I have to do is kick that bl***y guilt monster off my shoulder!
Have good days if you can.
Take care Lyn T
As many of you know my Husband, Pete, has been in a CH for 2 weeks now. I thought I would give you an update.
Pete settled well-so well I said to one of the managers that I would have fought to keep him at home if I could have foreseen how placid he would become. The manager said to me it was a good job that I couldn't then! They are all so lovely there. The manager said that they go home after their shift, whereas I couldn't! After not sleeping for 3 whole nights/days P is now getting some sleep at night, although he still wakes up about 6 times. The night carers tell him it's still night time and put him back to bed.
P lets the carers wash/change him (doubly incontinent) and he doesn't spit out his meds.He eats everything put in front of him and has a little doze in the morning and afternoon. The carers love him! They tell me he has a sunny smile and is a gentleman.
He's only once shown any aggression/agitation which was the day before yesterday when I left him to go home.We had been updating his photo album and he started to tear out the pages/photos.All he would say to the carers is 'that was a different life' (most unusual for P to be understood) We had had a very pleasant hour putting the photos in the album so it was absolutely out of the blue.I think it was a rare moment of realisation that he had once had a 'complete' life. So sad. Anyway I told P I would take the album home to find some more photos and bring it back on a daily basis so hopefully that will solve that problem.
Monday we walked down the road to the beach to get an ice cream. Unfortunately, even though the walk was only a couple of hundred yards Pete struggled (he shuffles and his head is on his chest when he walks) so I will attempt to use a wheelchair next time. Today I will take him for a shorter walk to a cafe where we can have some coffee and cake.
I visit everyday and sit with him while he has his meal;the staff are grateful that I do as P has to be reminded that food has to go into his mouth (with no prompting he just stares at it) I take in chocs and fruit and give him a hand massage everyday so the time goes by quite quickly.
So that's our life to date.Separated by AD but still trying to have good moments together.
Thank goodness I found the CH that P is in. The care is first class, it's homely (shabby round the edges-but P doesn't notice that.) The staff are friendly, very competent and sympathetic. We are becoming friends.
All I have to do is kick that bl***y guilt monster off my shoulder!
Have good days if you can.
Take care Lyn T