I’m finding it increasingly difficult to deal with my Mother, who was diagnosed with Alzhiemer’s three years ago.
If we go out to a cafe she usually enjoys herself and will laugh and have a joke which is good to see. The problem is that she won’t let me or anyone else help with things to do with her home.
She now doesn’t want me to find out what food she has in to make a shopping list. She won’t let me hoover (I arrange for cleaners but she doesn’t like it). Unfortunately there is building work to be done on the house. Even if I introduce her to the work men, they explain what needs doing, I ask her permission and fib and say it’s free (I have deputyship) she gets difficult about it.
Work needs to be done to the house soon which could take about a week. I am dreading it as I have to take time off work to be at the house and deal with her anger.
I can’t get her to go to appointments with me or carers so she wouldn’t go to a day care or respite centre. If I try and increase carers’ hours while the repairs are being done she probably wouldn’t go out with them.
I’m just wondering what my options are because I can’t get much help from family, I work full time and sort out a lot of things. I’m finding it very stressful.
If we go out to a cafe she usually enjoys herself and will laugh and have a joke which is good to see. The problem is that she won’t let me or anyone else help with things to do with her home.
She now doesn’t want me to find out what food she has in to make a shopping list. She won’t let me hoover (I arrange for cleaners but she doesn’t like it). Unfortunately there is building work to be done on the house. Even if I introduce her to the work men, they explain what needs doing, I ask her permission and fib and say it’s free (I have deputyship) she gets difficult about it.
Work needs to be done to the house soon which could take about a week. I am dreading it as I have to take time off work to be at the house and deal with her anger.
I can’t get her to go to appointments with me or carers so she wouldn’t go to a day care or respite centre. If I try and increase carers’ hours while the repairs are being done she probably wouldn’t go out with them.
I’m just wondering what my options are because I can’t get much help from family, I work full time and sort out a lot of things. I’m finding it very stressful.