I'm having problems with my mother & her paranoia. I've lived with her on & off for 15 years & basically done everything for her as she has trust issues. She is 83 & over the last 10 years has fallen out with friends, family & workers, accusing them of damaging & stealing things & often putting me in a difficult position along the way. As the last one standing, she now thinks everything is my fault & I want her dead (she told the GP practise this). At the end of January she called the police/adult protection/social services (can't remember who it exactly was, I was in shock), & after explaining their concerns for my mother i.e. I was encouraging her to take pills, changing the will, stealing etc etc, asked me to leave her home, I've not had contact with her since. I wrote to her GP explaining this & she had a safeguarding visit from Social Services but as she can seem coherent when not talking about me, they just advised her to ring the police if she feels unsafe. I believe she took a cognitive test & passed, but surely she needs a psychiatric report re her paranoia towards me. Even though I have LPA the GP won't discuss her issues with me because she refuses them permission to do so. I visited CAB, phoned Social Services but basically because she is not a danger to herself they won't get involved. I have since been informed that the other day she went to the Police, very distressed & informed them I was still getting into her house, moving stuff & putting her possessions in the bin & have placed listening devices on her phones, they drove her home & said call them in an emergency - would they contact Social Services about her visit, would it reopen another safeguarding query? I'm obviously super worried about her as well as being extremely sad that our once stable relationship has come to this. Now totally isolated & scared, she has contacted her 2 grandchildren whom she disowned, accusing them of stealing (now blaming me) & my ex brother in law (their father) is back on the scene too, though on one side this seems good news if they help a little, I'm worried they make take advantage of my vulnerable mum. Please, please can anyone tell me if there is anything more I can do to try & get help for her, in my previous post a private social worker was mentioned but she won't let anybody into the house & if it's not been organised through her local practise, she will just be more adamant & suspicious. I think I will write to her GP again but doubt that will get me anywhere, can I demand she gets checked for her paranoia re me, surely this would show something was not right? Thanks in advance for any advice, I feel totally useless not being able to do anything as well as having these baseless accusations against me.
Kind regards
Kind regards