First, apologies for the "straight in" approach from a n00b. If it's inappropriate here, please will someone tell me. My AP (Aged Parent) is disabled due to age, arthritis and chronic venous ulcers, and has also developed mild (although it does not seem it) vascular dementia. A chest and water infection led to AP's hospitalisation. Discharge to a care home for "respite" will soon happen. Walking tens of yards/metres using a frame is possible, with some difficulty. AP is mentally quite logical, but of course can't remember many things, although other things "stick". Going into a care home is causing AP much anxiety/stress/weepiness. AP has said, repeatedly (and repeatedly...) that AP wants to be at home. I am exploring possibilities to make this possible, but have no real idea as this is rather new to me, hence the shout. AP is currently self-funding, lives alone, and has been receiving care visits from agency workers for some time, to the tune of nearly £1,000/month. AP lives in a decent-sized house, with 5/6 upstairs bedrooms, but lives downstairs, effectively in two rooms. The concerns of Social Services and the hospital is that AP will have an accident at home, and be returned to hospital and/or worse will happen, so if AP is going home, something should be organised. AP may perhaps come to like being in a care home, but is as I say much against it at the moment. I do not like the possibility of "forced choice", or AP giving up and saying OK I like it in this care home", when AP does not in fact like it and suffers mentally (of course, it is possible that AP will come to like it) - old people! Never complain! I am also concerned that AP will go downhill fast in a care home. Anyway, the possibility of family living with AP is limited but may be possible in some months. What are options? 1) Say to AP "You must stay there at that care home". Let AP's house, or sell it, to fund. 2) Somehow get extra care for AP. 2i) Care home fees are £2,000+ per month. Agency home care is C.£1,000 pm. Possibly get a non-agency "friend" to visit, to the tune of £250 per week? N.B. Agcy won't work "with other agency workers", so a companion helper rather than a carer is needed. 2ii) A live-in carer? There's certainly enough room, but I hear tell it's expensive. Would rent be part of the package, deductible against the fee? 3) Something I haven't thought of yet. It's a pretty horrible experience for AP and others, all in all. I have been casting about for an organisation which might know about various plans and methods, and this is one such approach. Any ideas? I'm not sleeping at all well, and AP is distressed and frightened.