I'm only daughter 69 and mum is 89 in a few weeks Lived a long way away from.parents for over 40yrs Since my dad died 2yrs ago I've been supporting mum at a distance to live independently Managed well enough despite her having undiagnosed dementia for many years Took her to hospital early Jan with chest infection - but she had minor stroke - she ended up in stroke ward for 6mnths She has times when she is lucid - but due to slight balance issues and slight sight loss following stroke and the dementia having got worse her being disorientated at times now it was decided she could no longer live independently She arranged for me to have LPA immediately after dad died and had five MCA all of which she failed All agreed myself included it had to be care home She moved in on Monday She has now turned on me and blames me - accusing me if wanting he house etc She does eventually calm down She seems to be mixing and taking part in activities - although she claims she is made to sit in her room all day - I know this not to be true - she even went in the minibus with a couple of other ladies to the beach two days after she arrived ! Just like she did in hospital every day for six months she packs her clothes pictures etc up every day demanding to go home
Sorry for the very long time - but I'm a bit down after yesterday's visit Know it's early days as she has only been there a week - but I live a way away from home and it takes me a full day to get to get by public transport and I've bad arthritis myself I've been making trip twice a week to hospital recycling clothing washing etc for 6mnths I'm beginning to wonder if I should cut my visits to home to once fortnightly (other people living closer will visit) but I just set her off as being reason she is there Will she settle eventually ?
Sorry for going on and being garbled - but down and bit desperate
Thank you
Sorry for the very long time - but I'm a bit down after yesterday's visit Know it's early days as she has only been there a week - but I live a way away from home and it takes me a full day to get to get by public transport and I've bad arthritis myself I've been making trip twice a week to hospital recycling clothing washing etc for 6mnths I'm beginning to wonder if I should cut my visits to home to once fortnightly (other people living closer will visit) but I just set her off as being reason she is there Will she settle eventually ?
Sorry for going on and being garbled - but down and bit desperate
Thank you