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Only child, Mum has dementia, looking for someone to talk to

Amy in the US

Registered User
Feb 28, 2015
4,617
USA
Just wanted to finally stop in and say, hello, another only child here. I'm 45, live in the States, my mother is now in a care home after a crisis earlier this year and so although she's probably had dementia for at least the past 3 years (and more likely 5 or more), I only got the diagnosis in January. My parents separated/divorced when I was quite young and my father died over 15 years ago. I have always had a difficult relationship with my mother (critical, unpleasant, et cetera). My mother is also an only, so no close relatives on that side of the family.

When I first found TP I had no idea that there were other only children, adult females, with horrible mothers with dementia, out there. From everything I'd read and seen and heard, it was unusual. I have to tell you, it's a HUGE relief to know there are more of us than I'd ever imagined, even just on this forum.

I've gotten more support, advice, and help on this forum than anywhere else, and it's always here. Thank you!
 

mandymac

Registered User
Jul 13, 2015
1
only living child of Alzheimer's suffer

Hi
I am an only child of 47 (gulp ! )

Mum and Dad still with me although 100% Mum has early to middle stages dementia BUT refuses to go to doctors... Dad is coping but very proud and I am having a lot of problems getting him to accept any help.... you probably can fill in the blanks.

Would really like to connect with people that are at the same stage as me and my family, either with or without diagnosis,
Suppose looking for a kind of penpal through this great forum.
My mum is now in a care home after 31/2 years I couldn't,t cope with mum anymore felt a total failure putting her in the home but in the end had no choice as she was becoming a danger to herself and I couldn't, be with her 24/7 I,m also a carer to my daughter who has a severe learning delay. Mum is cared for very well but I,m finding it increasingly hard to watch her decline can,t remember the last time I had a meaningful conversation with her and it destroys you. I lost my only brother in 2010 and my dad who also had alzheimers in2011 and i,m scared of how bad mum decline will getl