1. Expert Q&A: Protecting a person with dementia from financial abuse - Weds 26 June, 3:30-4:30 pm

    Financial abuse can have serious consequences for a person with dementia. Find out how to protect a person with dementia from financial abuse.

    Sam, our Knowledge Officer (Legal and Welfare Rights) is our expert on this topic. She will be here to answer your questions on Wednesday 26 June between 3:30 - 4:30 pm.

    You can either post questions >here< or email them to us at talkingpoint@alzheimers.org.uk and we'll answer as many as we can on the day.

  1. Nutty Nan

    Nutty Nan Registered User

    Nov 2, 2003
    785
    Buckinghamshire
    #1 Nutty Nan, Oct 29, 2006
    Last edited: Oct 30, 2006
    Years ago, I always said that when the time arrived that my husband needed more care, I would give up work to be there for him ..... last year, however, I agreed to have carers in during the day so that I could continue working, and I think that was the right decision.

    Since then, my husband has become much more dependent, and I sort out all his personal care. I am not bothered that this curtails my arrangements in the evenings or at weekends.

    However, my elderly parents who live abroad have not been able to visit for over 12 months, and so I have made a sudden decision, supported by our daughters, to leave my husband in the care of said daughters for one weekend, in order to fly off to see my parents for just over 24 hours. - They have coped brilliantly, all has gone well, and I am so proud: I don't feel guilty for leaving hubby for a little while (actually, he didn't even notice I had gone, which is a bit sad but also a bonus), and I don't have to feel guilty any longer for not getting to see my parents.

    The reason for posting this is not a need to brag, but the realisation that by following Norman's motto of 'day by day', things have a way of falling into place, and by re-evaluatiung our ever-changing situation, ideas that once seemed impossible to realise may be achieved once the time is right.

    A seemingly small step of accepting the sincere offer of help from our daughters has actually been a huge leap for me and may well lead to more constructive arrangements in the future!

    Never say 'never'!
     
  2. connie

    connie Registered User

    Mar 7, 2004
    9,519
    Frinton-on-Sea
    Bless you Nan. Thanks for posting so positively.So glad that things turned out O.K. for you. Both you and hubby must be so proud of your family.
     
  3. Áine

    Áine Registered User

    Hope you enjoyed your weekend Nan. Many years ago someone offered me the motto of "things change" as a sort of consolation. I didn't understand it at the time. Now I do ;)
     
  4. Margarita

    Margarita Registered User

    Feb 17, 2006
    10,824
    london
    Both so right .

    This time last year I was so worried about how I was going to cope with careing for my mother and balancing work, even with a care plan from social services , so taking a leap of faith into my self dropping that guilt feeling I have done it.

    Thanks for sharing ,Nutty Nan its lovely reading a positive view .
     
  5. Tender Face

    Tender Face Account Closed

    Mar 14, 2006
    5,379
    NW England
    Nutty Nan, thanks for that perspective....

    HUgs to you and yours! Karen, TF, x
     

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