the story to date
mum came to live with me (3 months) - didn't like it - wanted to return closer to home
mum moved to a care home (5 weeks)- didn't like it - wanted to have her own place
mum moved into her own place (9 days ago), private, warden controlled, sheltered - doesn't like it.
All the way through I have been there for her, spent last weekend cleaning, putting up curtains, putting together her bed, installing furniture, registering her with the doctor, sorting out groceries etc. etc.
Nothing is ever going to be right for her. She has had visitors every day but according to her she sees no-one.
Currently she says the central heating isn't working - it was working when I left but she has switched it off and had at least 3 people look at it... I have spoken to a heating engineer, he is coming out today and will pretend that he is doing the job as a favour because he remembers me from school and will send the bill to me. She sees pennies as if they were the size of cartwheels and every pound is a prisoner of war so this is a necessary deception (even though her pension is more than my income).
I really feel that I have run out of options - and my relationship with my daughter is suffering from the strain I am under. Mother has fallen out with just about everybody she has ever known, is a "phone-slammer-downer" when she doesn't get her own way and has a tendency to see the worst in everyone and every situation.
I am feeling very isolated today and could really live with some reassurances.
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mum came to live with me (3 months) - didn't like it - wanted to return closer to home
mum moved to a care home (5 weeks)- didn't like it - wanted to have her own place
mum moved into her own place (9 days ago), private, warden controlled, sheltered - doesn't like it.
All the way through I have been there for her, spent last weekend cleaning, putting up curtains, putting together her bed, installing furniture, registering her with the doctor, sorting out groceries etc. etc.
Nothing is ever going to be right for her. She has had visitors every day but according to her she sees no-one.
Currently she says the central heating isn't working - it was working when I left but she has switched it off and had at least 3 people look at it... I have spoken to a heating engineer, he is coming out today and will pretend that he is doing the job as a favour because he remembers me from school and will send the bill to me. She sees pennies as if they were the size of cartwheels and every pound is a prisoner of war so this is a necessary deception (even though her pension is more than my income).
I really feel that I have run out of options - and my relationship with my daughter is suffering from the strain I am under. Mother has fallen out with just about everybody she has ever known, is a "phone-slammer-downer" when she doesn't get her own way and has a tendency to see the worst in everyone and every situation.
I am feeling very isolated today and could really live with some reassurances.
x