I am 89 but am now having to learn how be carer for my 75 year old partner who is in the early stages of advancing Alzheimer's. Help from the NHS seems mostly based on declining memory but I am finding personality and behaviour changes are even more difficult to deal with. I suppose that these are so varied help is bound to be limited. Living in a village our close gay friends do not live close by and I feel increasingly isolated and discussing problems outside the hearing of my partner is not easy. I hope that his forum may help me make contact with other gay oldies.