so after 5 years of caring form my FIL with VD, we have decided to instigate permanent care for him. He has lived with us since being diagnosed, generally he is quite docile but can be difficult. He has been getting up more in the night and trying to' go to work' and he is having real continence issues. He was in respite last week and the staff told us he was going to the toilet and sitting down but forgetting to take his trousers and pants down. Since his return, I'm having to check him regularly - the washing machine has not been off!
I'm racked with guilt as this week he has not been too bad behaviour wise apart from the incontinence and trying to go to bed constantly from 3pm....but to be honest, I'm fed up looking after him, that's the truth. He is not my dad, but the burden is left to me to care for him as my husband is at work whilst I try to 'work' from home. My youngest age 17 is becoming frustrated at the amount of my time he takes up, I don't think she is being selfish, just fed up with being asked to wait for my attention whilst I re-dress her granddad.
He is not going to be happy but if we don't do this now then either I am going to go mad or get divorced.
Apologies for my grumpiness, I think I have just reached the end of the line.
Dottie x
I'm racked with guilt as this week he has not been too bad behaviour wise apart from the incontinence and trying to go to bed constantly from 3pm....but to be honest, I'm fed up looking after him, that's the truth. He is not my dad, but the burden is left to me to care for him as my husband is at work whilst I try to 'work' from home. My youngest age 17 is becoming frustrated at the amount of my time he takes up, I don't think she is being selfish, just fed up with being asked to wait for my attention whilst I re-dress her granddad.
He is not going to be happy but if we don't do this now then either I am going to go mad or get divorced.
Apologies for my grumpiness, I think I have just reached the end of the line.
Dottie x