Just feeling that I can’t do anything really for my parents short of moving in with them and I am not prepared to do that. Both have dementia. I have PIA and neither of them have capacity to make decisions about their care needs. Mum moved into a care home in September following her third in a series of falls. They weren’t happy when they were both home together and weren’t coping. Now she is saying she wants to come home even though she is really well looked after and seeming to be having a great time in her care home. My Dad wants her home and when he visits and speaks to her on the phone he constantly asks her when she will be home. He won’t accept any explanation of why this is not a good idea and neither will she. He is accepting daily carers for an hour and a lady who visits some afternoons but not every day. He is constantly on the phone to me at all times of day not knowing where mum is and asking when I am ‘coming home’’ or thinking I am my mum. I am there two or three days a week but don’t live nearby and have a family so can’t and don’t want to do any more than this. This week I tried to introduce another carer for social support but he wasn’t having any of it. A few weeks ago I tried to get him to stay in respite with my mum but he refused. Today he has been on the phone saying he is bored and fed up and asking where my mum is. I can’t see any way forward and it feels cruel to leave such a confused man on his own but equally cruel to force him into residential care against his wishes. I tell myself that he is ok most of the time and I only hear from him when he isn’t. It just all seems so hopeless and it doesn’t seem like there is anything I can do about it. Sorry for the negative post but having a bad day.