Morning all, MIL lives with us, her own lounge, bedroom and en suite extension we had added to the house, she's lived with us for a little over a year now, diagnosed for 3, hubby is her carer.
MIL doesn't remember this is our home all the time, wonders where the other residents are, in fact sometimes she thinks she works in " this home". She's declined recently, hears scratching/knocking sounds ( there are none) hides our things and says her own have been stolen ( we find them, in the oddest of places), says the dog puts her mug on windowsills, short term memory is ever so short - but she eats well ( after refusing saying she made food earlier ( she can't cook, can barely make a coffee now).
She seems to be sleeping but has night terrors she says, people ( dead relatives) calling to her, we make sure she has her medication and ten minutes later she's screaming at us for not giving her them, she has arthritis and most days refuses to get dressed, won't go out at all, even if her other son asks, just to his house..and on the one occasion she has gone for a few hours this year ( so hubby and I could visit my dad after his triple heart bypass) she is so unsettled for several days after, telling us she feels like she's upset as as we never sit with her, yet we only left the room ten mins ago..and that she was better on her own, etc etc. We've had three nights out ( one our wedding night lol last November when we actually stayed out, her sister was with her). We pay carers to help her shower, as she kept refusing to and was also refusing to give me laundry " in case". The carer gives me her pj's pants etc now. We're never giving up on her, everything is built for her, even wider doors for zimmer/wheelchair if required...she keeps asking whats the matter with her , we don't tell her its the one thing she most feared ( two sisters died of it and one is in a care home with it, MIL refuses to visit until sis goes home, which she won't). We won't put her in respite, a few hours away and she's all unsettled for days so we don't want her to decline. Do I get the CPN back ( who was a chocolate fireguard ) or a Doctor so maybe she has some tablets to soothe her sleep? Thanks for listening...
MIL doesn't remember this is our home all the time, wonders where the other residents are, in fact sometimes she thinks she works in " this home". She's declined recently, hears scratching/knocking sounds ( there are none) hides our things and says her own have been stolen ( we find them, in the oddest of places), says the dog puts her mug on windowsills, short term memory is ever so short - but she eats well ( after refusing saying she made food earlier ( she can't cook, can barely make a coffee now).
She seems to be sleeping but has night terrors she says, people ( dead relatives) calling to her, we make sure she has her medication and ten minutes later she's screaming at us for not giving her them, she has arthritis and most days refuses to get dressed, won't go out at all, even if her other son asks, just to his house..and on the one occasion she has gone for a few hours this year ( so hubby and I could visit my dad after his triple heart bypass) she is so unsettled for several days after, telling us she feels like she's upset as as we never sit with her, yet we only left the room ten mins ago..and that she was better on her own, etc etc. We've had three nights out ( one our wedding night lol last November when we actually stayed out, her sister was with her). We pay carers to help her shower, as she kept refusing to and was also refusing to give me laundry " in case". The carer gives me her pj's pants etc now. We're never giving up on her, everything is built for her, even wider doors for zimmer/wheelchair if required...she keeps asking whats the matter with her , we don't tell her its the one thing she most feared ( two sisters died of it and one is in a care home with it, MIL refuses to visit until sis goes home, which she won't). We won't put her in respite, a few hours away and she's all unsettled for days so we don't want her to decline. Do I get the CPN back ( who was a chocolate fireguard ) or a Doctor so maybe she has some tablets to soothe her sleep? Thanks for listening...
