I agree with the other posters, much as I would have loved Dad to have settled quickly into the care home, it took 2 months of pacing, walking continuously, not eating or drinking very well, losing weight, wanting to leave with me each visit, saying he was unhappy, having tears etc etc. But gradually it got better and 5 months on he has a certain degree of acceptance. I haven't been able to take him out like many others do as I don't want to undo the hard work of us all getting him to this stage, would worry that I'm dangling a 'see what you are missing' carrot and that would be cruel plus worry that I wouldn't get him back in. He has daily access to a secure lovely garden and can see the traffic and people going by so does have some sight of the outside world. He does still ask to go and told me he was unhappy but as others have said I don't believe now. he can make sense of why or what he is feeling that is making him unhappy. I have always been very envious of the posters who say their relative took to care straight away and were happy, for us it has been a hard few months but I can honestly say that it has got easier I visit every other day but still can't directly say I am going as I don't want it to be a trigger for upsetting Dad - so I'm going to get dinner ready, wash up, put the rubbish out - anything that I think he will accept. Within minutes of me going, Dad has forgotten I was there which now is a blessing and helps me with the guilt that like everyone who has posted, always seems to be there and probably always will be.