Hi, my MiL is 92 and diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and VD about 18 months ago. She lives on her own but has carers coming in at breakfast and lunchtime to give medicines and offer a meal and drinks. At the moment she prepares her own microwave meal in the evening. She gets herself up and dressed but I suspect that washing is becoming more of a rare occurrence!
My question is about her staying in bed all morning now. She is often still in bed when the lunchtime carer arrives now. She has her breakfast in bed and think that the carers have sometimes started giving her lunch in bed too. She goes to bed around 10 (if we stay over she does this spontaneously) and appears to sleep all night and morning. She will also sleep in her chair when she is up, just watching tv and the birds outside when awake. We visit three days a week and she is usually asleep whatever time we come.
My question is whether we should speak to the care team to see if they can encourage her to get up after breakfast, or failing that to strongly encourage that she gets up for her lunch. Up till now they haven’t had to encourage washing but wonder if that should start also. My MiL does get annoyed at ‘bossy’ carers (!) but wonder if we could use love lies about the doctors saying she must get up.
So wondering if we should accept this is how things are currently and that she will sleep a lot or if we should try to alter this pattern that is developing? Thanks for any advice. I read lots of the posts here which are incredibly helpful !
My question is about her staying in bed all morning now. She is often still in bed when the lunchtime carer arrives now. She has her breakfast in bed and think that the carers have sometimes started giving her lunch in bed too. She goes to bed around 10 (if we stay over she does this spontaneously) and appears to sleep all night and morning. She will also sleep in her chair when she is up, just watching tv and the birds outside when awake. We visit three days a week and she is usually asleep whatever time we come.
My question is whether we should speak to the care team to see if they can encourage her to get up after breakfast, or failing that to strongly encourage that she gets up for her lunch. Up till now they haven’t had to encourage washing but wonder if that should start also. My MiL does get annoyed at ‘bossy’ carers (!) but wonder if we could use love lies about the doctors saying she must get up.
So wondering if we should accept this is how things are currently and that she will sleep a lot or if we should try to alter this pattern that is developing? Thanks for any advice. I read lots of the posts here which are incredibly helpful !
