- Feb 16, 2019
My mother lives with me, a long and complex story involving my sister emigrating and selling the flat mum rented. She moved in with me temporarily. 20 years on, with mild to moderate Alzheimer’s and increasing violence toward me, mum needs her own place more than ever. (I work f/t). But. Patchy and slow though it is, she can wash, dress, prepare meals (sort of, sequencing shot), shop, she’s difficult, and changes her mind about where she wants to be physically located. (Near me, back to roots in Wales). As well as violence, she’s verbally unpleasant to me. Short of “tricking” her into moving, i.e. arranging without her knowledge, taking her and leaving her (brother’s suggestion), I am at a loss to know what to do and am considering giving up work due to difficulties and stress. If I had ages, I’d outlined all the people I’ve been in contact with today, all the people we see, i.e. dementia doctor, family therapist (to help us get on better...), Dementia Hub (mum won’t attend anything), and. I’m considering giving up work as I can’t cope and she’s not eligible for that Needs Assessment. And, several years apart, I’ve spent the night in a police cell as a result of her violence, as we had to be separated. I work with kids, so can’t risk my DBS. I don’t know where to go from here.