1. amnmont

    amnmont Registered User

    Aug 11, 2008
    23
    southampton, hampshire
    Hi I am sure that this has been posted about before but I don't use Talking Point much. Although I am not sure why as you lot are very helpful!

    My grandma is 87. She has been living on her own but a couple of weeks ago she got a uti and ended up in hospital. She has never been the biggest eater but now she's home she's hardly eating anything at all. She now has 4 carers a day go in so we know what they are making her to eat and what is left over. Today she had a couple of bites of toast, half a cuppa soup and I went in and cut her a small slice of cake which i was quite adamant she was going to eat. She says she's not hungry but she's starting to look ill and lethargic. She's not drinking enough either. And her dementia is worse than when she went in.
    We have tried the softly softly approach but today we tried to be a bit harder in our approach. She just gets nasty and sarcastic. She can't go on for much longer like this before getting seriously ill, which we have told her.
    Any advice will be extremely appreciated!
    Sarah xx
     
  2. Jessbow

    Jessbow Registered User

    #2 Jessbow, May 31, 2015
    Last edited: May 31, 2015
    Try finger food that you can leave beside her, sandwiches (perhaps just 2 quarters) with a 'moist' filling or sweet filling, titbits that you know she likes, perhaps some fruit ( my mother could eat really cold melon for Britain despite having a poor appitite)

    Food so that she can graze (over the course of perhaps a couple of hours) and see what disappears.
    maybe food that doesn't take much chewing- quiche and such like

    Would he try cold drinks? I used to freeze some water in a pop top bottle and top it up with squash- It stayed really cold for ages, was easy to pick up and drink and didnt spill

    Prob not the very best quality but when mum wasn't eating very much , I used Iceland frozen ready meals. ''Do you want this, this, or this?'' showing her the boxes. it gave her some choice, and was almost instantly ready. Didn't always work, but might be worth a try
     
  3. nitram

    nitram Registered User

    Apr 6, 2011
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  4. Tin

    Tin Registered User

    May 18, 2014
    4,815
    UK
    Has her medication been changed recently? If so, check side effects. My mum has a huge appetite at the moment, but there have been times when she will only eat snack foods like little sausage rolls, quiche, crisps, grapes, little pots of ice cream She won't take these if I offer them, just helps herself at any time of day or night and then after a week or two we get back to normal meal times.
     
  5. count2ten

    count2ten Registered User

    Dec 13, 2013
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    #5 count2ten, Jun 1, 2015
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  6. amnmont

    amnmont Registered User

    Aug 11, 2008
    23
    southampton, hampshire
    thank you for all your replies. Unfortunately grandma had another fall yesterday and is in hospital again. She unfortunately has pneumonia now. The non eating is the least of our worries now!! The doctors are apparently quite positive as she is coughing so is trying to clear it. I am not feeling so positive. :(
     
  7. Amy in the US

    Amy in the US Registered User

    Feb 28, 2015
    4,619
    USA
    I'm so sorry to hear about your grandmother and hope she receives good care in hospital. Don't forget to take care of yourself.
     

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