Hi all, this is my first post. My father has mixed dementia and lives alone with carers visiting him 3 times a day (which he hates). Recently the number of concerned phone calls from the carers and his neighbours has noticeably increased. A few nights ago he fell in his back garden whilst digging up the drain (!?!) my brother was alerted by a neighbour and went around and put him to bed. 40 mins later he was back out in the dark digging again. He's frail and falling approx. once a month and life is clearly becoming more confusing for him.
We have reached that dreaded stage where we don't think it's safe for him to live alone but he is adamant that he is coping and he doesn't want to leave his home. I would like him to move in with my family. We have a converted garage with ensuite and I have a disabled child so I've already rearranged my life to be a home a lot. He also noticeably relaxes when I visit him and take charge. But like I said he doesn't want to leave his house.
I have referred him for a care needs assessment and I plan to have a frank (but kind) talk with him about his options within the next few weeks (I live at the other end of the country) Does anyone have any advice or experience of dealing with this situation? It is weighing quite heavily on my shoulders.
We have reached that dreaded stage where we don't think it's safe for him to live alone but he is adamant that he is coping and he doesn't want to leave his home. I would like him to move in with my family. We have a converted garage with ensuite and I have a disabled child so I've already rearranged my life to be a home a lot. He also noticeably relaxes when I visit him and take charge. But like I said he doesn't want to leave his house.
I have referred him for a care needs assessment and I plan to have a frank (but kind) talk with him about his options within the next few weeks (I live at the other end of the country) Does anyone have any advice or experience of dealing with this situation? It is weighing quite heavily on my shoulders.