Mums has had vascular dementia for about 10 years now and I have been her full time carer for the last 7 years. She will be 90 this year My main concern now is that for the last year I have been getting up to help her in the night and it can be up to 26 times a night. As you can guess I am exhausted and I want to explore options to try and help rather than giving up and mum going into a care home. She mostly wants to go to the toilet and doesn't use the commode that is right next to the bed and wanders around looking for the toilet. She also wakes to get dressed, clean the room, thinks someone else is on the house, worried about me. I have tried loads of things to try and help. Spot light on the commode - Picture of a toilet with red letters saying toilet. High Viz strips on the commode. Small dose of Kalms. keeping her busy all day. Cuddling her at bedtime to give her security. Nothing works. I have a bed alarm and also a camera in the room so I can check that she is ok. Medically the Doctors cant give her sleeping tablets as it will make her too sleepy and she is likely to fall. I have stopped her Statins to see if this will help. I am now looking into sleep music and discovered something called Delta waves that can send you into a deeper sleep. Can anyone give me some advice if this might be suitable for mum.