Hello everyone. I'm new here so may waffle a bit to get my concerns across so apologises in advance.
My nana was admitted to hospital with a uti 5 weeks ago and since been there has also been diagnosed with alzheimers. She is due to be discharged next week but both myself and my nana expressed concerns about her going back to live independently not only with the alzheimers but the fact that she has a steep staircase to climb to access her flat and she struggles getting in and out of the bath. The hospital social worker dismissed thsee issues by not even acknowledging them. He said she will have carers going in twice to prompt her medication and an alarm on the front door (as she is a wonderer!). I myself am going to help as much as I can but I have two young children who also have additional needs. My husband works away. My nana has also said out of earshot of the social worker that she will not let the carers in. She wants to lock her front door and just watch TV! I am so concerned that I don't know what to do and am worried for her safety.
Another issue is that of money. When my nana went into the hospital she told me to get the money out of her flat and keep it safe which I have. She has never mentioned it again but I have reassured her that it is safe (£7000). Her son who lives down south who has visited twice us now saying she wants him to have this money and she got into a state about it as she us a adamant he has to have it and says she has been asking the nurses can she go home so she can get it for him. I know also he ransacked her flat looking for it!!! I have told him I gave it but it remains my nanas. Does he have a legal right to it as he is her son??? Ivisit everyday and she has never come across as worried or adamant my uncle should have it. My uncle also told me it is not my job to look after her and to leave it to the state and I shouldn't become a slave to her. I love my nana and will do everything for her but at the moment I am emotional and confused and don't know what to do.
My nana was admitted to hospital with a uti 5 weeks ago and since been there has also been diagnosed with alzheimers. She is due to be discharged next week but both myself and my nana expressed concerns about her going back to live independently not only with the alzheimers but the fact that she has a steep staircase to climb to access her flat and she struggles getting in and out of the bath. The hospital social worker dismissed thsee issues by not even acknowledging them. He said she will have carers going in twice to prompt her medication and an alarm on the front door (as she is a wonderer!). I myself am going to help as much as I can but I have two young children who also have additional needs. My husband works away. My nana has also said out of earshot of the social worker that she will not let the carers in. She wants to lock her front door and just watch TV! I am so concerned that I don't know what to do and am worried for her safety.
Another issue is that of money. When my nana went into the hospital she told me to get the money out of her flat and keep it safe which I have. She has never mentioned it again but I have reassured her that it is safe (£7000). Her son who lives down south who has visited twice us now saying she wants him to have this money and she got into a state about it as she us a adamant he has to have it and says she has been asking the nurses can she go home so she can get it for him. I know also he ransacked her flat looking for it!!! I have told him I gave it but it remains my nanas. Does he have a legal right to it as he is her son??? Ivisit everyday and she has never come across as worried or adamant my uncle should have it. My uncle also told me it is not my job to look after her and to leave it to the state and I shouldn't become a slave to her. I love my nana and will do everything for her but at the moment I am emotional and confused and don't know what to do.