Hi, just joined up because I think I'll be needing you guys in the coming weeks, months.
I've been looking after my dad for the past few years since my mum died. He has physical health problems following his cancer treatment. His memory has been declining slowly. We had a crisis last weekend when he went missing and was acutely confused. A CT brain confirmed "vascular changes" according to the A&E doc. So we're awaiting the memory clinic assessment and confirmation of the diagnosis. We went from "I've lost my keys" last week to not knowing who I was. I'm still in shock I guess, it's happened so quickly. The acute confusion disappeared quickly and now he's back to being "normal for dad."
I have a sibling who has never had a good relationship with dad. Let's just say they have been less than compassionate. They just want him to be put in a home. We're not there yet. Not by a long shot, I hope. I've tried to explain how we need to care for a dementia patient (I've worked 24 years in the NHS) and how familiarity, reassurance, routine and family support are essential. They just want the "proper authorities" involved. So I feel very alone.
Sorry for the rant, but it has been cathartic just typing this all out!
I've been looking after my dad for the past few years since my mum died. He has physical health problems following his cancer treatment. His memory has been declining slowly. We had a crisis last weekend when he went missing and was acutely confused. A CT brain confirmed "vascular changes" according to the A&E doc. So we're awaiting the memory clinic assessment and confirmation of the diagnosis. We went from "I've lost my keys" last week to not knowing who I was. I'm still in shock I guess, it's happened so quickly. The acute confusion disappeared quickly and now he's back to being "normal for dad."
I have a sibling who has never had a good relationship with dad. Let's just say they have been less than compassionate. They just want him to be put in a home. We're not there yet. Not by a long shot, I hope. I've tried to explain how we need to care for a dementia patient (I've worked 24 years in the NHS) and how familiarity, reassurance, routine and family support are essential. They just want the "proper authorities" involved. So I feel very alone.
Sorry for the rant, but it has been cathartic just typing this all out!